Monday, July 14, 2014

Shapeless dresses





Outfit Details:
thrifted dress - old, but this one from ASOS is very similar
Miu Miu sunglasses

I know, this dress makes me look like I’m pregnant (I’m not). But even if it does, I really like it, which is why it's stayed in my closet for so many years. If you’ve been following my blog for more than just this post, you probably know that I often-slash-always wear flowy or shapeless dresses that could probably fit a few of me in them, so I’m a little surprised when someone assumes that me wearing a flowy or shapeless dress automatically means I must be pregnant. I can only make my own assumption that it’s merely what I’m wearing, which makes one draw that conclusion - but somehow, it still gets under my skin. I’m human, and I have my own hangups and insecurities. Aspirationally body positive or not, there are only so many times I can be asked that question without getting self conscious. Regardless of how well-meaning an inquiry may be (though I’ve had plenty of mean-spirited ones to completely quash those), it stings. The worst part is, I get so many lovely comments from all of you - and yet, here I am, focusing on the baby bump speculation. I hate that. 

So can we make a pact, right now? Can we please promise one another that we will never again ask a lady if she’s pregnant, ever ever ever? Maybe I’ll let it slide if she’s wearing a shirt that says, “As me about my bun in the oven!” But only maybe, because I have been known to wear a “Greatest Dad On Earth” shirt from time to time - and I am not a father, just a fan of silly thrift store shirts. I’m also a fan of shapeless dresses or ones with an empire waist that show no curves, but not to disguise a bump or even hide my body in an act of shame. It’s because that’s my personal style. It’s because I don’t believe "dress my body type" magazine articles should dictate my wardrobe choices. It's because I don't believe I have to wear clothing which clings to my body in order to prove that I have one. 

But more than anything, it's just the way I like to dress.




40 comments:

  1. You don't look like you're being pregnant, you look like a gorgeous, romantic lady and I love this dress!

    http://lartoffashion.blogspot.com

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  2. keiko lynn, you look amazing in that dress. Sweet, warm and approachable. And very pretty of course. Love these kind of dresses!

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  3. Oh dear... no one should ever ask a woman if she's pregnant. Ever. I like your idea of a pact. Love your dress. Those red flowers make me smile!
    xo,cynthia

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  4. Awwww you look like a princess! Love this dress!

    www.ennfrancosays.com

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  5. I love the dress! That is the kind of dress I would wear especially on days when I feel body-conscious, but also when I just want to be comfortable and girly at the same time.

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  6. When I was a lot heavier, I got asked way too many times, "How far along are you?" and it pissed me off to no end! I feel your pain and I hate that some people feel it's okay to ask that when it really isn't. It's no one's business if you are or aren't pregnant - unless you're wearing a shirt like the one you mentioned above (or my personal favorite: a coworker has one that says "Pregasaurus Rex").

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  7. You look stunning! You are such an inspiration:)
    xx
    The Stylish Confessions

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  8. I actually saw this dress on instagram and saw the people asking you were you expecting. Firstly, you DO always wear loose stuff so why would people think that and secondly if you were why would people be so forward and pushy like that. I've seen it done to other bloggers that I follow as well, this idea that it's ok to ask about personal lives and express what they think they should do...

    People saying things like,

    "oh when are you going to have a baby? You so should!"

    It's grinds my gears!

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  9. I love your dress! I loved what you said about not dressing for your body type, but your style!
    www.elizabethamyyy.blogspot.com

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  10. People can be so mean! Even when it's not intentional, it's still thoughtless and therefore mean - who asks that, seriously?! First rule of speaking to a woman: never ever EVER ask them if they're pregnant.

    If I looked this good in empire lines I'd be wearing them all the time too!!

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  11. The pattern of this dress is so pretty.. Love this outfit!
    xx

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  12. OOO this dress is so pretty! What a beautiful find!

    <3
    heather
    fashionistanygirl.com

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  13. So stunning!!
    This dress is amazing!
    -Adrienne. xo

    Citizen of the World
    Citizen of the World

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    Wanderlust Boutique

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  14. That floral pattern it right up my alley!

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  15. I'm with you on that pact girlie! And you look gorgeous; that dress is stunning!

    Heidi D.
    www.wishesandreality.com

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  16. Preach it, lady. You're a babe no matter what you dress yourself in.

    My Iowa Life

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  17. Thank you for this wonderful message, Keiko! That dress looks so awesome on you, and it is ridiculous for anybody to think that you would wear it for any other reason--such as concealing a baby bump.

    -Helen Grace

    www.sweethelengrace.com

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  18. you look SO amazing! i love this dress..

    http://www.amoderngypsy.blogspot.com

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  19. Amen to that pact! It's *never* a good question to ask a girl, for thousands of reasons! And one of my favorite things about your blog is how you dress for you--so keep wearing the clothes you love! Also, that dress is fantastic.

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  20. I'm with you on the pact. No, idea why people things it's a good question to ask this.. Anyway, lovely dress.

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  21. Fabulous dress. You look great in it and you do not look pregnant. Just gorgeous.

    Fabulous 30s

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  22. I can't even comprehend why someone would go out and ask that. It's just... odd. I for one think you look like a gorgeous flower goddess!

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  23. It's a beautiful dress on you! No apologies needed! It looks super comfy too - not everything has to be tight, and this dress is a wonderful example.

    Miranda
    Little Gold Pocket Watch

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  24. What a gorgeous summery dress! Loving the rose print. And man- there should be a serious ban on pregnancy comments in flowy gear. The worst! xo

    -Jen

    www.vibrantbeautyblog.com

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  25. awesome!
    xx
    daniella
    simplybeautifulelegant.blogspot.com

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  26. that's so crazy that people would ask you that, you don't look pregnant at all. love the rose print!
    -alexis

    http://nevernewd.blogspot.com/

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  27. Similar thing to when you usually wear baggy, comfy shirts and the one time you'll wear something a little more into shape everyone will be asking when how did you lose weight.. Anyway, very nice print and nice shape, the hands are a little bit too much but you're pulling it off quite nicely :)

    Take care, Xx Cristal Pearl

    cristalpearljls.blogspot.com

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  28. Yes! Absolutely! I'm wearing an empire waist dress today and I have a coworker who thinks it's hilarious to say "you're pregnant" when I say I have news even after I've told him time after time that my husband and I don't plan to have kids. Ever. I'm so not amused. You look lovely and so do I. Eff the haters.

    xo,
    Brianna Wray
    http://wraysofsunshine.com/

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  29. a lot about a shapeless dress and a beautifully-written blog post. xo

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  30. Although in shapeless, you styled the skirt well. http://www.tonarmoire.com/

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  31. I think this dress looks romantic and lovely, and it in no way makes you look pregnant! Love what you had to say about clothing - I feel exactly the same way! I love sexy clothes, but my style of sexy is usually more subtle than in your face. And, I love over-sized sweaters and trapeze dresses. It's my body, and I don't feel the need to always show off it's shape.

    Cassie
    http://stylecassentials.blogspot.com

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  32. This dress is looking just great , its perfect for summer!

    http://www.gloria-agostina.com

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  33. I love this type of dress too, but I am so tall that the empire waist doesn't hit me in the right spot. Plus I am fairly well endowed, so the dress always makes my look super pregnant. What to do, what to do.

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  34. Agreed! I learned years ago to keep my yap shut. I asked a new coworker when her baby was due, and she replied "He's 4 months old." I'm still embarrassed. :0

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  35. Not embarrassed to say, you're Gorgeous Ms. Keiko!

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